Sexual Healing - Emotional Integration - Erotic Empowerment

Are you frustrated by the repetition of unhappy relationships with similar patterns that prevent deep intimacy and trust?

Have you withdrawn from seeking intimacy and sex because its easier to be alone and celibate than deal with the drama and emotional pain of a “relationship?”

Are you hoping there is more to sex and intimacy than what your experience has been?

Do you long for a “spiritual” connection in your sexual expression?

Are you tired of the same dysfunctional sabotaging that pops up ruining your opportunities for intimacy and happiness?

Have you given up thinking you’ll find someone who really sees your beauty, your unique gifts, your divinity?

Are you plagued with thoughts and feelings of being not “good enough” or not desired by others?

People who have experienced trauma, abuse, sexual and emotional battering and wounding often feel they are in the situations described above. Adding to feelings of frustration is the thought of not knowing what to do or where to look for help with such intimate and private concerns.

Studies show that it is a rare exception to not have experienced the trauma or abuse and wounding mentioned above during one‘s lifetime. It seems most of us have embedded memories in our being of such experiences and it is these unprocessed experiences that subliminally effect our engagement with other people and the stories we tell ourselves about our life and relationships. Its only by processing and integrating these “shadow” aspects of one’s experience are we able to benefit from -instead of be at the mercy of- their energy and reclaim these alienated pieces of our self. Doing so brings relief and empowerment -a feeling of unity and wholeness pervades one’s being. Past situations and concerns that plagued us no longer inhibit or contract the experience of happiness and fulfillment we feel.

Energy Knots
Emotional, mental and physical trauma and abuse creates an acute experience which -understanding and acceptance of- is rejected as being unacceptable, frightening, and abhorrent. This rejection is a massive surge of emotional, mental, and physical energy that embeds in one’s being a clog of energy that acts like a sore muscle does when there’s a knot in it. These “energy knots” continue and can fester to greatly influence our life experience if not attended to.

Many people get by with coping skills that enlist anger, manipulation or dominance -or retreat into depression, self abuse, or acting out. Often feelings of low self esteem, worthlessness, unworthiness, and failure are unconsciously addressed by distractions: overcompensating with family, career, consuming hobbies, drug or alcohol abuse, overeating and/or indiscriminate sex. During our life experience whenever one comes up against a situation that triggers the wounding of the “energy knot” a reaction occurs with unconscious behavior or words that often creates the opposite of what is in one's best interest or desired as an outcome.

Many therapy modalities exist and most are implemented as a form of “talk therapy” -endeavoring to clear impacted emotional blocks and distortions through the mind‘s functioning. Talk therapy provides treatment and processing that can be effective on a mental level by providing some intellectual understanding, limited emotional level activation -and very little, if any, physical engagement. Alternately, most “body therapies” don’t consciously or purposely engage the emotions or seek to bring new consciousness into effect.

Healing Touch
When emotional wounding, abuse and trauma enters one’s awareness it triggers thoughts, emotions and physical feelings that combine to embed lasting tender spots in one’s psyche. Because the imprinting of abuse and trauma involves all three aspects of being, (emotional, mental and physical) the process of releasing emotional wounds and integrating their power necessarily involves all three aspects as well. Without this holistic approach to clearing, releasing and integrating blocked energy often only limited and temporary effects are felt.

Because many of the occurrences of abuse and trauma happen in connection with the sexual body (incest, rape, sexual abuse, molestation, sexual hazing) a healing modality that addresses this aspect directly in a therapeutic process is preferred. Sexual Healers (Daka, Dakini, Sacred Intimate, Intimacy Coach, Sexological Bodyworker, Sensual Guide) provide such a holistic health service with knowledge, expertise and experience in activating and addressing the emotional, mental and physical aspects of self in releasing and shifting blocked energies for a return to wholeness.

Sexual Healers
Sexual Healers provide safe space with sacred intention -holding precious the vulnerability of -and trust placed in them by- their client. A clear container that respects boundaries and adeptly guides the client to deeper layers of opening, acceptance, and releasing, provides the basis of a healing session. Sexual Healers work with one’s personal evolutionary impulse (entelechy) and help one to open up to what wants to be cleared, shifted, and released to create a new feeling of empowered completeness in the client.

Sexual Healers provide a feeling of safety, confidence, acceptance, non-judgment, inspiration and new possibility. They engage and activate the emotional body by a process that includes physical and mental stimulation catalyzing energy knots to release and open -allowing energy to flow freely again. By quieting the mind to release mundane concerns, guiding with a relaxed focus and simple visualization, and adding appropriate higher-consciousness, the mental component on the path to integration is addressed. By also engaging the physical body through sensual touch that both relaxes the body and stimulates erotic energy, the Daka or Dakini provides an effective means to loosen and shift energy knots into releasing and integration. The intention is not for sexual gratification, rather, erotic energy is enlisted for its catalytic and healing ability.

Sexual Healers function similarly to other alternative health service providers and counselors/coaches, setting up a program of sessions that addresses the unique circumstances of the client. Unwinding emotional energy knots and returning to wholeness and empowerment is a process that often requires more than one session for complete results to be felt.

The Journey Home
The journey to healing and wholeness is a process that contains feelings of accomplishment, relief and ecstatic joy -as well as aspects of anxiety, discomfort, and fear because these elements are entwined in the energy knot. When these knots are unraveled and released, significant discomfort (accompanying relief) can result. This can prompt the ego to challenge the wisdom of the path one is taking to heal and release these energy knots. The situation is similar to someone starting an exercise program for the first time -muscles that haven't been worked very hard begin to "complain" and one's resolve is challenged, often ending the exercise program and the good intentions of the individual. People who complete their course of healing and integration report feeling more beautiful, sexy, clear, attractive, confident, empowered, and whole. You, dear reader, are invited to look within and discover the places where you have contraction, restriction, or inhibition and seek guidance and a program of healing and integration so you also can feel the benefits of holistic health, emotional and psychological vitality, and be inspired to new heights of expression and well-being.

Namaste,
Sunyata Satchitananda
Daka-Sacred Intimate,
Certified Tantric Healer ~ Reiki Practitioner
www.mythiclove.net/sunyata

Here's a video I shot of my morning ritual -heaven on earth! *smile*

Reasons for seeking Sexual Healing with Internal Pelvic Release
Many, if not most, women in our culture have experienced physical abuse, sexual trauma, rape, and/or molestation as well as mentally and emotionally abusive episodes. Even short of these more extreme experiences, women often are pressured to submit or accommodate sexual gratification of their husband or lover without desiring or fully welcoming the engagement in the moment. All of these circumstances produce contractions and restrictions of a woman’s energy.

The “bad experience” is stored in body-memory tissue located usually in the yoni, stomach and/or anus areas of the body. This has the affect of clamping down the woman’s full enjoyment of sexual engagement and creating “dead” or numb areas of the body. Often this affects sexual desire as well. Women who experience this may compensate or ignore the feelings of disconnect, numbness, pain or anger that exist and “just go-along” with their husband or lover’s request for sex and not be fully present to what is happening. This certainly takes it toll on the relationship, even if only on a subliminal level -slowly eroding the intimacy and freedom of sexual expression she feels.

Internal Pelvic Release (a.k.a. “Yoni Healing”) is an important aspect of sexual healing for women. To experience the full flow effect of kundalini (sexual energy) rising it is essential that the energetic pathways of the body be prepared, clear and open. When this is the case, women feel empowered and free in their sexual expression and embodiment of Shakti (Divine Feminine) energy. They feel “lighter” -more enlivened- experiencing expanded sensual sensitivity and orgasmic response to their lover’s attention.

Procedure
To create a holistic healing opportunity there first needs to be a sense of “space” around the issues embedded like a memory in the body. To begin with, some consciousness discussing the woman’s concerns and felt awareness and understanding of past abuse, trauma, or emotional wounds, is shared. With a detached perspective and holding an intention of releasing and opening, the woman opens to an opportunity for healing. At that point, the physical aspect of the procedure has greater impact and is welcomed by the body.

To prepare the body, a full-body sensual massage is given. It is essential to deeply relax the body so its unconscious “armoring” is lowered and energy is flowing more easily. The adept Daka will also use Tantric skills to enliven the energy pathways of the body in preparation for the energy release that follows. Only when the body is readied in this manner will the Internal Pelvic Release procedure be affective.

The following description is for information purposes only and is not a complete instruction set of the procedure. One should not attempt internal pelvic release without previously receiving personal instruction and guidance by an experienced practitioner. There are more aspects to become familiar with and assurances of competency to complete before one begins performing this procedure with a client or inexperienced receiver.

Its very important for the Daka to ask permission before engaging the yoni. The woman receiving this procedure must feel completely at-choice, with nothing being “taken” from her nor having to submit to something she is not desiring or ready for. I ask permission and receive her verbal “yes” and then I wait for the yoni to also “say yes” by its feel -open, receptive, welcoming energy.

The exterior of the yoni receives a sensual massage that is intended to relax and open the yoni tissues up to receiving deeper contact and vaginal penetration. When the yoni is prepared and ready to be entered the Daka will enter the yoni with one finger and gently probe the vaginal walls for areas of tightness, tenderness, soreness, or pain. When such areas are encountered, a gentle but firm pressure is applied without “rubbing” or creating friction to that area -merely meeting the contracted spot with firm-but-gentle pressure that equals the firmness of the contraction -without trying to force it to release. The receiver is invited to bring consciousness to this spot and “breath-into” it with the intention of allowing whatever wants to happen to do so -again not in resistance or forcing anything to happen.

The physical process is similar to acupressure on a knot in one’s muscle. Often, the masseuse will hold pressure until there is a release in the muscle. As the Daka feels the vaginal wall release there is a definite feeling of softening and opening that occurs. Often this is accompanied by a vocalized release which may include anger, sobbing tears, and/or physical reactions of shaking and sweating.

After one area is addressed, a thorough canvassing of the yoni wall and addressing of additional “tight spots” occurs, providing a “clearing” of the yoni. It is often necessary to receive more than one session for complete clearing to occur.

A Different Touch
The Internal Pelvic Release procedure is different from “pleasuring touch” or even the release associated with invoking female ejaculation. The process is often pleasantly enjoyable while engaging pleasure-sensitive areas of the yoni, the touch however, is not a solicitous one, designed to invoke sexual excitement or orgasm. Rather, the yoni is engaged with "love-heals," accepting, touch/pressure.

This love-heals touch often contacts tender, sensitive, sometimes painful areas of tight, clenched tissue or muscle in the stomach, yoni and anus area. The engagement therewith is gentle, loving-acceptance, healthful touch/pressure, which meets the “tightness” with equal presence without resistance. This is different from touch designed to invoke orgasm or female ejaculation -it feels loving, accepting, healing, opening one’s self to a more relaxed welcoming of touch rather than the armoring stiffness, “deadness” or numbness currently felt in one’s gut, yoni, or anal areas.

Benefits
By freeing these areas of the body from contraction it allows for the free-flow of energy through the three lower Chakras (energy centers) in the “body.”

The Root Chakra (located at the end of the tail-bone, externally represented by the perineum) is connected to one’s relationship with one’s community, family, survival, feeling of groundedness and connection to mother earth Gaia. It is through this source all our material-physical manifestations come from -procreation/creation.

One’s Second Chakra is associated with the genitals of the body and is connected to our sexual expression, as well as one’s feeling of Shakti (Divine Feminine energy) flow through the body -resulting in a “sensuality” of being. Because of this, the Second Chakra is also associated with Eros, vital force, inspiration, creative spark, vitality, and vibrancy of life. If you are not feeling these aspects of your essential nature then you have contractions/restrictions in this Chakra.

The Third Chakra is connected to one’s “Power” in life and shows up in one’s ability to manifest one’s dreams or intentions. The Third Chakra is located about three fingers below the sternum’s end on the rib cage and is associated with the stomach. If you have a protruding stomach out of proportion with the rest of your body or experience severe tightness, cramping, or bloating of your stomach, you likely have Third Chakra, personal power, issues happening. Clearing this Chakra empowers one’s life with confidence and clear intention and understanding of how to manifest one’s desires.

By clearing these three Chakras from blockages and restrictions (which show up in these areas of the body) one becomes a being filled with vibrant energy, sensuality, confidence, and tremendous expanded orgasmic ability. One’s energy shoots to new heights and sees fantastic new possibilities entering life every day.

Completion
Completing the procedure involves holding space and staying present without trying to fix anything or stop the emotion from coming out. The Daka can offer support by eye-contact, holding hands, embracing the receiver as desired -or not- by her. Gentle, long strokes to the body of reassurance and acceptance is often welcomed.

I keep one hand present at the yoni (exterior), holding in support of integrating the releasing energy. My other hand strokes the body, bringing the energy up and out through the body on to whatever energetic disbursement the wisdom of the “body” has in store for it. Sometimes the receiver can become cold at this time, it is good to have a blanket or sheet available to cover up with. Compression squeezes through the covering are often welcomed now, feeling deeply cared for and nurtured and warm.

If after reading this you would like to receive a Tantric Healing session, or want to learn the complete procedure in order to offer this healing practice as a Daka, please contact me.

Request a Tantric Healing Session
Request to be taught the complete Internal Pelvic Release procedure.

I am a Man serving as a Sacred Intimate (Daka, Sexual Healer). I’ve worked as a carpenter, insurance inspector, photographer, TV station manager, and Development Director so you might wonder how did I come to be one who engages sexual energy with the intention of healing, shifting, releasing and opening energy blockages consisting of: emotional wounds, judgment, shame, powerlessness, low self-esteem and inexperience.

My path to becoming a Sacred Intimate started when I was pursuing a fine art photographer career. I created fine art nude-in-nature imagery which was well received and published in several issues of FOCUS magazine and shown at Photo San Francisco. The women who posed for me weren’t professional models and for many it was their first time to be photographed unclothed. I was professional and respectful, making sure they were comfortable, warm, and at-ease. Many of these women had remarkable responses to seeing their beauty portrayed in fine art imagery. From these experiences I yearned to be able to positively affect a woman’s self-esteem and realization of her beauty and innate divinity -however I had no idea of what form that service might be.

I began studying Tantra and sacred sexuality. It was here that I found a basis for understanding sexuality and the dynamic of male-female energy engagement. This took me to a higher possibility for sexual engagement and created a container that supported transcendence within sexual relationship. Through my own process of healing, opening, and releasing my “blocks” to wholeness and integration I was able to reach a place within where I could serve the women in my life with similar processing, education, and coaching.

Eventually I met and began a relationship with, a woman who was serving as a Sacred Intimate (Dakini). Through her introduction and example, I was presented with the form my service could take. I desired formal certification to become a “Daka” and found a teacher for that purpose. I became certified as a Tantric Healer and started offering sexual healing sessions soon thereafter.

Before I began giving sessions as a Daka I went through a period of deep introspection, contemplating my motivation for serving in this capacity. Was I doing this to “get dates?” Was there some sexual gratification in the process for me? How did I feel about serving women I wasn’t attracted to? Would I serve men too? What were my boundaries, what was I willing/not willing to provide in a session?

My fears came up: Did I know enough, would I be good enough? Would I be able to fulfill the client’s expectations for the session? Could I keep my emotional “distance” and not become enmeshed/entangled with a client’s feelings or circumstances? Fortunately, I discovered, fears are always worse than what is actually experienced. My sessions were perfect, each a lesson in relaxing into being present and holding space without a personal agenda -which is a large part of my service as a Daka.

One of the big questions was: Would I serve Men? At first, I was disinclined because I am heterosexual, but then realized I was perpetuating my own homophobic fears. So, I remained open and after several gay or bisexual men contacted me for sessions I decided to give it a try. This process was perfect because it made me take another, closer, look at the purpose of the sessions I offer. For me, sessions are about healing and integration and realizing one’s divinity and higher awareness of being and not merely for the client’s sexual gratification. I realized that I was uncomfortable with providing “directed release” (a.k.a. “a happy ending”) as an expectation in the session. With either men or women, orgasms can happen, but they are not the goal of the session. I teach meditation and breathing techniques and energy awareness which combine to produce an expanded understanding and experience of orgasm when it occurs -and give men the option of not ejaculating but retaining the energy and moving it up through their body for an expanded experience.

Why do men and women come to see me in Tantric Healing sessions?

My sessions focus on sexual healing, releasing, opening and clearing energy blockages stemming from past trauma, emotional wounds, judgments, shame, powerlessness, and messages prompting low self-esteem. These blocks take the form of “hot spots” of tension stored in the body at various locations -often in the first or second Chakra area. Both men and women carry these blockages and both benefit from being consciously touched with loving, accepting, nurturing energy. By being present and providing loving touch, an opportunity is presented for the stored energy to shift, move, open, and release as a result of the intention for healing and integration held by the client. I gently steward our session and provide a safe and sacred container for such releases to occur.

Another reason men and women have sessions with me is due to the profound absence in our culture for healthy modeling of masculine attributes that support holistic growth and integration in the psyche. Women experience a double dose of discouragement when trying to grow into integrated wholeness by receiving healthy masculine modeling. There are very limited positive resources to model one’s inner masculine after and when women do assert masculine aspects they are often demeaned as a “bitch” or “dyke” by immature male egos.

Men likewise have scant resources for such modeling, and often receive their “training in being a man” from their father, grandfather, older brothers, uncles, superiors at work, or religious leaders -many of whom are emotional-adolescents themselves! Sessions with me give one the opportunity to explore healthy male energy that does not have an agenda for personal fulfillment or egoic gain.

A third aspect of sessions with me centers on healthy unconditional acceptance and touch. Many people do not have a resource for this in their life. And there seems to always be an attachment of expectation for reciprocal treatment -at the least- or worse, a one-way “using” of the other for sexual gratification. Women especially, report feeling like their husbands are just using their body to “get off” and don’t feel “seen” or felt as being present with -during sex.

I provide present, unconditionally loving acceptance and touch to whomever is before me -loving their body in all its shapes, sizes, colors, ages, and forms. For some people, my touch is the only experience of loving acceptance their body has had since they were very young. Sessions with me are often among one’s first steps towards body acceptance and better self-esteem.

Another significant category of client are women who have chosen to be celibate for one reason or another. These women often choose to experiment with male energy in a safe and sacred container, knowing nothing is expected of them in return and they can relax into positive male energy and maintain their choice of celibacy.

Men clients come to see me for many of the same reasons women do. Men have also experienced trauma, emotional wounding, and abuse and desire a safe container to release blockages of judgment, shame, powerlessness, guilt and low self-esteem. Whatever their sexual orientation, positive male energy is invaluable to experience and incorporate in one's life and men find their time with me to be nurturing and supportive in this way. Also, some heterosexual men desire to experiment with male energy in a safe and sacred container without the expectation of sex. I provide a positive engagement that meets this desire without judgment or pressure for sex.

What happens in a session with me?
Many clients are nervous in the beginning of their first session. Quickly that releases as one feels my presence, unconditional love and open listening which fosters trust and shifts the experience into relaxed confidence. I spend a significant amount of time counseling and coaching, which brings conscious awareness to personal and relationship challenges and a higher possibility for sexual engagement. I ask clients to share with me their intention and desire for our time together and what part of their story which seems relevant to our session. We discuss their intention, desires and concerns and I ask them to hold these lightly during our session and see what wants to shift, open, release, and integrate.

Because energy blocks are accepted into our being through a process that goes from the more subtle etheric bodies (intellectually, emotionally, spiritually) into the density of the physical body (and gets lodged there in “storage”). The process to release such blocks includes a similar pathway. I co-create with the client an opportunity for shifting or release by bringing a higher-consciousness to the underlying emotional and psychological issues attached to the blockage. Then I engage the body through breathing techniques, movement and massage to activate the specific areas harboring these blockages.

To get to the state where a shift or release can happen the body must be deeply relaxed, where armoring defenses are inactive. The quality of touch conveyed during the massage is one of unconditional love and acceptance, nurturing wholeness and well-being. There is no salacious “getting-off” energy part of this process, I am merely bringing the opposite of: judgment, fear, shame, and guilt to these sensitive areas of the body -and holding space for whatever wants to happen to occur.

I begin the session with a “centering” exercise using eye-gazing and breathing. I often follow this time with some core-connected “meditative movement” -a slow “dance” of stretching and moving our bodies to aid in embedding the new consciousness discussed earlier in the session. This is followed by a full-body sensual massage that includes the entirety of the body.

A full body sensuous massage includes the “private areas” of the body. For these areas, I ask permission first, and then wait for the body to also say “yes.” For the yoni (vagina), it is a three-step process. First, permission is received to start engagement with the yoni exterior, then when that is complete, permission is granted to enter the yoni for the interior release process, and third, permission to engage the sacred spot (another area that often carries shame, judgment, and fear). Each step is given respectful pause and consideration so that the woman feels completely at-choice and that nothing is being “taken” from her in the massage.

The massage is followed by a period of “completion” where I simply hold space and stay present to the venting or releasing that has occurred. If the client is open to it I eye-gaze with them for a bit to connect (sometimes however, the client desires to “go within” and close their eyes for a while) and we might hold hands or with my hand to their heart, so there is no abrupt ending to the session.

I also offer follow up counseling/coaching by phone or email for what may come up during the days/weeks that follow the session. Many clients benefit from repeat sessions which clear more blockages and allow for further integration and a return to a sense of wholeness and well-being.

Sessions for Couples
I feel humbly blessed to be trusted by a couple who are revealing their relationship’s challenges and desires. Couples often have issues around sexuality and intimacy and it is wonderful to experience the “ah-hah” moments where consciously connecting-the-dots creates a shift or opening that allows more love to shine through. I use a process of bringing consciousness to challenging aspects of relationship followed by integration with movement, breathing and massage to create a higher possibility for the couple’s love to deepen and intimacy to be felt .

Often couples come for sexual enhancement and also end up learning advanced sensitivity and communication skills and/or ways of bringing presence and consciousness to their relationship more fully. For many couples, sessions include discussion, coaching, education, demonstration, and body integration which I initiate and also teach them to do with each other. In addition, I offer sessions co-facilitated with a Dakini, Kali Devi, for those who are more comfortable with a couple leading the session.

As more women become apprised of the opportunity to grow into fullness by releasing blockages of energy through Sacred Intimate sessions our culture will begin to heal itself more rapidly. As men become more sensitive to the higher possibility of masculine/feminine integration and appreciation of their feminine aspect they will find eager support from women who share the desire for higher possibility in relationship and the social evolution of our species. Sacred Intimates, male and female, lead in this endeavor and provide opportunities for individuals and couples to expand in love and self-integration for a more holistic experience of life and love.

Please join me September 12-14th 2008 at Harbin Hot Springs in northern California for the World Polyamory Conference where I will be facilitating a workshop entitled: The Sacred Intimate: Agents of Love and Light. Also, please visit my web site to read more information about my sacred service offerings and to be notified of the release of my book “Love, Sex & Consciousness: a Handbook for the Aquarian Age” -coming soon. I am also accepting new clients, so please contact me with your desire for a session.

Love and Light,
Sunyata Satchitananda
www.mythiclove.net/sunyata
www.sacrederos.com/sunyata/


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Accept What's Present,
Release What's Not,
Consciously Create     
      -Sunyata Satchitananda

I received this email this morning and can't help sharing with you all the love I am experiencing...

Hi Sweetheart,

Here is my Anniversary letter to you. As I wrote it, I realized that I could keep writing forever and ever. There is so much that I could still continue to be thankful for. I do feel the "yet deeper strength" that has grown in our loving since this past weekend. Something has shifted and I am yet more "married" to you.

I love you honey. I am so fulfilled with the love we are living I can't even speak it. This is my best try.

Alorah

Sunday Night, 12/2/07
Satori Vineyards

Dearest Sunyata,

There is a moment that occurs for all people.
It is a moment when you make a great choice.

Thank you for choosing one year ago to recognize me.
Not me the personal woman whom you did not even know yet,
rather ME, the expression of SHE that I archetypically AM.

Your recognition, your responsiveness, your capacity
to receive and perceive me as SHE form the grounds of our love.

As I write to you, we are in Gilroy, celebrating our first year of loving with our loved ones and Triya.
It truly has been a magical year. A great year of AWE.

I am so deeply grateful for our beautiful love.

We are living a love that all people dream of and few ever live. We are Divine Consorts and physically recognizable as such.
I am so moved by the beauty of our beauty together.

Thank you for coming disguised to the Temple so that I could be tested in Divine Recognition and Divinely pass through.

I am so grateful that the love that poured through me throughout our first journey has been affirmed in its truth by this year
that we've lived. I am so grateful to know I am loved beyond any doubting, to know I am "first" forever in the core of your heart.

I honor you for all the growth you have been through in our first Awe-Sum year.

Thank you for releasing mundaneness and choosing the Temple.
Thank you for accepting Odesseus and the "egg" that he was.
Thank you for transforming yourself into your Grand, Handsome Kingness
and giving my eyes a beauty they're loving each day of my life.

Thank you for all the money you gave to me, the Temple, Holland and Luminessa.
Thank you for being a truly generous man.

Thank you for crying without reservation and with such easy access,
I honor the emotion you feel and the love it expresses that is so fresh in your heart.

Thank you for all our process-filled hours and your commitment to finding our way
through the eggs of our egos.

Thank you for our wonderful lovemaking and the wonderful joy you've brought me in bed.
Thank you for loving my body in all its expressions -
for seeing my beauty and filming my beauty throughout all this year.

Thank you for loving my consciousness, for getting my consciousness, for equaling it.

Thank you for fulfilling the legacy I first started with Michael -
for letting me stand on the shoulders of my first marriage
and soar into the ethers of our love.

Thank you for honoring the Goddess I am in all her expressions and
for valuing me for the role that I serve when I am with men.

Thank you for being able to live with my "bigness",
for becoming my King and being the King in my Queendom of Love.
Thank you for accepting my freedom, for embracing and owning the sovereignty path.

Thank you for seeing and loving and playing with my Communal family -
Aurora, Adorah, Amorah, Azorah and all the Light tribe.
Thank you for being a "yes" to E journeys and for giving to me
so many "nights of a Lifetime" in one awe-filled year.

Thank you for being a voyager with me - Independent Front Runners -
creating new worlds in which people can play as Human Divines.

Thank you for being up for the Wild Ride of Triya and all that she brings
as a catalyst of love and sex in our lives.
Thank you for the love, integrity, thoughtfulness, and egolessness of your
Triya engaging - who you are being is a beautiful model of who men can be.

Thank you for your love for my children and the ease they receive
from having your presence so strong in my life.
Thank you for mentoring Kurt and mentoring Holland -
each in their own ways, with their creative talents.
I love that they love you and are welcoming you with such open hearts.

Thank you for your love of the Temple and all of its beauty.
Thank you for enabling it to be in existence and to be "going up".
Thank you for all your photography skills and computer equipment.
For the beauty you see and have the astuteness to capture on film.
Thank you for making my vision of filming come alive in my life.

Thank you so much for the calendar! For the life altering healing
that occurred for Holland and me through that wondrous shoot.
Thank you for enabling me to see myself in my daughter
and to relax in the knowing that HER legacy lives and
will find its expression through Holland in time.

Thank you for releasing all of your money without real contraction.
For being the same with money or not in living your life.

Thank you for having a 6'4" body that I get to play on.
And also for having a very large lingam with which I can play.
Thank you for loving sexuality and studying sexuality and
exploring sexuality - for all of the reading and attentive loving
you've brought to our game.

Thank you for being such a lover of mary and a scholar of her.
Thank you for all of the Mary you've brought to the Temple
and all of the care and pleasure you took in gardening her.

Thank you for reading Busting Loose and
responding to it as I have responded.
Thank you for living in Phase 2 reality as Goddess and God.

Thank you for wearing catsuits and loving catsuits and wanting catsuits.
For loving dance, and wanting dance and becoming dance.

Thank you for fulfilling the pictures that live in my psyche of Romance and Love.
Thank you for being Eros - for the amazing experience we had with those Beings
and that they are us!

Thank you for being so profoundly spiritual that you really are God!
Thank you for emerging from Beyond Time and Into Being with Me
for fulfilling my ultimate Holographic Dream of Love, Beauty and Eros
embodied in a Sacred Love that Endures Over Time.

We are doing it Honey!

Get ready, get set, for a great second year! The Year of AAAAhhhhhh

All my love,

Alorah

As antlers drop and the birch whitens its branches I sing to thee
"I am the thought of all plants" says he, "I am the thought of all plants" say he

As birds ravish the last berries and white bark stands naked -dark in the rain
"I rise with the sap" says he, "I rise with the sap" say he

The Ash clash their boughs tracing wild faces on the clouds
"I come with the wind" says he, "I come with the wind" say he

The hazels are rattling the cups of their nuts as the harvesters cut the last sheaf
"I swim with the salmon" says he "I swim with the salmon" say he

Globes of grapes are robbed of bloom and the thick skies of autumn belay stardust's glow
"I am crushed for your drink" says he "I am crushed for your drink" say he

The aspen drops silver and poplars shed gold on young ivy flowerheads
"I've paid for your pleasure" says he "I've paid for your pleasure" say he

Where reed beds are silent and islands protrude she waits and waits
"I have kept your secret" says he "I have kept your secret" say he

The eldar bark whistles calling deer o'r the snow as children play
"I am born in the dark" says he "I am born in the dark" say he

So say he, so saith the Green Man

(original poem adapted from "The Green Man" by William Anderson in the book "Green Man: Archetype of Oneness with the Earth")

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Here's a follow up letter to our community and my latest phase 2-ings...

Greetings Divine Self!
Well, what an interesting email to follow my last to you about "Busting Loose from the Money Game," the "Movie," and our Divine-Detachment perspective.  When I last wrote I promised more to come about Living with/in Divine-Detachment and what it looks like to not be enmeshed in the movie... little did I know, Alorah and I would have a huge "egg" of power to reclaim tossed our way so soon!

We returned home from a wonderful four day visit down in Gilroy and Carmel Valley, CA. with the Satori and Wowza beauties of our ComeUnity to find that a major shift had happened in our "movie!"  Our Expanded Self arranged to have the vast majority of our "farming" project be appropriated by another being -or just disappeared from our hologram, whichever you prefer.

So, as I'm writing this to you, I'm witnessing my mind and following its thought associations and search for meaning to what has happened.  The mind likes to give "meaning" to things that happen in our lives, and it weights that meaning with importance and impact depending on the emotional state of balance/grounding we are experiencing while processing the experience.  Well this has been a doozy...

We're being shown an "egg of power" (see "Busting Loose") that goes directly to our survival instinct issues -that of having our "living expenses" paid for.  Just that phrase "living expenses" brings up a challenge to my phase 1, 2 awareness -why are there "expenses" for living?  In the movie there are living expenses.  Out of the movie we are: The Divine Being-that-all-of-us-are which is utterly secure and without threat of any kind.  So, my sadness, frustration, and feelings of loss vis-a-vis what was stolen are tendrils of phase-1-ness infiltrating my awareness.  The more meaning I give it the more my energy drops and the more sadness and lower vibration emotions I feel. -uh uh, no way jose, ain't doing that no more...

My expanded, divine, self is/has been watching this movie and sending me lots of love from so many of you -I am profoundly blessed. Leading up to this plot change (and continuing...) I've been immensely happy with "my hologram."  My experience of love and fulfillment is expanding and it has been an exhilarating ride!  And that appreciation for all of you is what is buoying my spirit as I consider this latest surprise. 

Holding appreciation for "the hologram" and my stellar capacity as my Expanded Self for having created it focuses consciousness in my divinity and gives me a level of detachment that lets me process information from the hologram ("the movie") for my enrichment, enjoyment, evolving experience of love-and-life without suffering with my Ego's sense of fear and loss/separation.  By investing my consciousness with Divine-Detachment, I engage with love and understanding.  By accepting the movie's scene as being perfect for my personal "needs" (my persona in the movie) there is much less suffering of emotional pain and stress.  In fact, there is an exhilaration of spirit when Divine-Detachment takes me through an experience with grace that would otherwise throw me for a major loop.

Despite this major shift in the plot of the movie my focus is on our loving and being in your presence again and enjoy our engagement further.  Our ComUnity is growing with beautiful people, light Beings, stellar compatriots of enlightenment and mirth! (wow, mirth, when do you see that in a sentence? it just popped into the hologram! *grin*)  -So Being in Divine-Detachment lets me see what is really meaningful to me -and it is not what was stolen.  What is important and meaningful in my life is the love that I share with you in so many forms and capacities -it is the divine giving back to itself the experience of love, passion, joy, and divine-inspiration.  Dear One, thank you for being in the movie with me -and for being your stellar Divine Self- we are all "OK," all-right, all-bright, all de-light-ed to be with you here, now.
*smile*

Much Love and Light,
Sunyata

-- 

Accept What's Present, 
Release What's Not, 
Consciously Create  
	-Sunyata Satchitananda

This is a letter to my community I sent out about Bob's book that I think you'll enjoy...

Greetings Divine Beings,
If you haven't read Robert Scheinfeld's "Busting Loose from the Money Game" -I strongly recommend reading it.  You might think, looking at the cover and by the title, that its about some money scheme -when actually its a great spiritual guidebook in disguise!

The theme of the book is discovering what the differences are between paradigms (old/new phase 1/phase 2) and making a shift in consciousness and our day-to-day awareness to "divine-detachment" -Bob says: 'stepping out of the movie.'  ("divine detachment" means to be detached from enmeshment with "the movie" and yet having divine compassion, love, and interest towards that which is being detached from -my phrase not Bob's).  Being stuck in "phase 1" or "in the movie" is like sleep-walking and banging into walls, or struggling to climb up a mud-soaked hill that keeps sliding you back down -there's either an ignorance that brings uncertainty, pain and fear, or a frustration of effort that breeds a feeling of futility.  Awaking to "phase 2" takes you out of Egoic evaluation and fear, gives you confidence of Being with knowledge of who you really are, and modulates desire with non-attachment to outcome.  What's been interesting for me is discovering how much its possible to be enmeshed "in the movie" and realizing the pseudo-security we feel (really: are searching for) in phase 1 reality is part of the illusionary fabric that "reality" is made of.

Add in the concepts of Quantum Physics to this and the extent and magnitude of "maya" (the illusion of matter and form -and the experience of "life" built upon such an illusion) becomes strikingly apparent.  Knowing that all matter is energy vibrating at various frequencies and amplitudes and that there is a vastly larger void of potentiality that makes up all existence and that there is one infinite Being that comprises all of that (us, the universe, all dimensional realities) who is having an experience of limiting its awareness of itself and its infinite abundance and rediscovering itself through (in part) our individual expression of "life" that is experiencing this time/space physical dimension -helps to shake us out of our enmeshment to dependence on physical reality for understanding our place in the universe and our value as a Being.  It provides a "witness" perspective to our engagement with our life experiences.

Bob helps us to disengage from the maya ("movie" in Bob's metaphor) and develop a divine-detachment to the maya/movie.  The critical linkage is in understanding that as the divine Being having all these experiences -we are utterly safe and secure in our "always-is-ness" and completely loved and valued and cherished as this divine Being (the Being-that-all-of-us-are).  Realizing this "truth" deep in our soul gives us a calm, complete confidence-in-being and allows our awareness to relax vis-a-vis what is happening in the maya/movie.

As Bob and Quantum Physics point out, all we see and feel and experience in our universe is a hologram -made up- energy vibrations interpreted by our brains and given meaning -forming our understanding of our existence and interfacing with life.  Since this is so, everyone/everything you see, taste, feel, hear, smell, and even intuit, are all merely patterns of energy in space (lots of space it turns out -90% or more) and are much less predictable and understood than the values our brain gives to such information.  In fact, it may be that the universe doesn't exist unless your consciousness is focussed on it (its particular "section") -and then it comes into form.  Imagine that, how illusory -and illusionary- the universe can be!

What is real? What is reality? As Bob points out, the only thing that is "real" is the Being-that-all-of-us-are, the one who is infinitely abundant and created the maya/illusion as a game (or dream, in some cultures) that limit's its infinite power through illusion and rediscovers itself through revelation and experience.  The "movie" being played before us is designed to give our individual expression of the divine an individual experience of life.  To the degree we identify with the movie (inflated Ego-engagement) we become enmeshed in the movie's "rules" and currents of popular thought, struggles and fears.  When we maintain the awareness of our divinity (Being-that-all-of-us-are) and divine-detachment ("its only a movie") we engage with the movie actors with reverence (knowing them to also be of the Being-that-all-of-us-are) and without Egoic desire of manipulation or control -but to merely enjoy the moment and seek its gifts.

Each engagement becomes an opportunity to see how the divine will manifest in that moment -we engage eagerly with life with an open anticipation.  We see the movie as a consistent stream of messages flowing from the divine to us.  Our life takes on a fuller, mystical form (as above, so below; within/without; macro/microcosm) and the characters in our "movie" have significance and represent ourself in some way.  Occurrences and happenings take on seminal significance as we relish every drop of life in each moment.  The "wobbles" of life become smaller and/or easier to "transition with grace" and our Egoic triggers dissipate.

The Movie analogy also is good to check and see "Where are you in relation to the movie?" -are you enmeshed in the movie as one of the characters playing out scenes unconscious to your divinity and struggling with the crazy "rules" of the movie, or, are you sitting in the theater seat watching the movie with divine-detachment, enabling you to gracefully engage without getting caught up in the movie's maya/illusion?
So "Busting Loose..." (please read Bob's book!) is the first part, the second part involves how to live in "divine-detachment" and engage with "the movie" without forgetting who you really are and what your relationship to the movie is ...more to come.

Love and Light -Divine Self! *grin*
Sunyata

-- 

Accept What's Present,
Release What's Not,
Consciously Create     
    -Sunyata Satchitananda

Greetings Dear Ones,
Here's an announcement for my new Sacred Intimate web page:
http://www.mythiclove.net/sunyata

Please take a look and send me your comments!
Namaste,
Sunyata
sunyataji@gmail.com